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What advice do you have for a first time mom?

This weekend I attended a baby shower for friends of ours we don’t get to see very often. The boys used to work together and have remained good friends. I connected with Derek’s wife Erin right away as she understands how tough it can be to live with someone who works in professional sports. Don’t get me wrong, there are many perks, however, it’s not always sunshine and whiskey. Employees of pro-clubs work long hours and rarely see the light of day during the season.

Since D & E were making the 7 hour trek from Columbus, Ohio I figured the least I could do was the 4 hour journey from the Centre of the Universe to Toronto. Besides, I needed my hairs did as the ombré look I had going on wasn’t really doing it for me and my hairdresser is there.

At the shower I learned that people are a little crazy over baby bumps. E was OK with all of the touching but it I can’t deny it, it creeped me out a little. (<- That’s my way of saying if we ever have a baby please don’t rub my belly. I’m not a Buddha and won’t bring you good luck.) There were no cheeky games which I was entirely grateful for. There was a sheet by the bar (I know, shocker, I was lurking around the bar) that asked people to leave their best advice for the mom-to-be.

I didn’t think having my babysitters license and a four legged beast made me the least bit qualified to give advice to an expectant mom. One should be impressed that I’ve kept Lois alive as long as I have but I’m not sure if feed-walk-sleep-repeat is necessarily the formula for life. Needless to say I didn’t give any advice. In hindsight I wish I would have as I learned some things from being a pseudo mom.

So Erin, as a non-mom here is my advice:

  1. Supermom doesn’t exist. Ask for help when you need it and accept help when it’s offered.
  2. Don’t compare your life to those that people only want you to see. They’re edited. You’re real.
  3. Cry when you need to. “What soap is for the body, tears are for the soul.” – Jewish Proverb
  4. If you’re doing you’re best, that makes you a rockstar.
  5. When all else fails, call me. We’ll drink wine and commiserate about how stupid our husbands are. Duh! Of course I know that’s after you’ve pumped.

Thank you for including me in this amazing time of your life. I’m glad I got to see your bump before Dee Dawley (yes, that’s my name suggestion) joins us :)

Do you have any advice for new moms to add to this list? I’ll be sure to pass it on to the mama-to-be. Leave it in the comments below.

it's all about me; advice for first time moms; baby shower; advice for first time parents; advice for new moms; hockey canada

it's all about me; advice for first time moms; baby shower; advice for first time parents; advice for new moms

it's all about me; advice for first time moms; baby shower; advice for first time parents; advice for new moms

it's all about me; advice for first time moms; baby shower; advice for first time parents; advice for new moms

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7 Responses

  1. My advice is don’t read any books, they will make you crazy. The best advice I got was from my mom, who said if the parents are easygoing and laid back, the baby will be too. This has been true in my experience.

  2. Erin

    Thanks for the awesome post – it was a wonderful day and Baby D is already so loved! It was so great to see you! I can use all the help/advice I can get!

  3. My advice would be to follow your gut where parenting is concerned. There is no parenting instruction manual, and every child is different, so do what you think is right for your child.

  4. Elizabeth

    When the baby naps, you take a nap too!!! You need to take time for yourself too!!!! All the housework and other stuff can wait, it will still be there when you have the energy to deal with it!!!! And when someone offers to give you a hand or a break, take it!!! But most of all just enjoy being a Mom, especially when they are small, it goes by way to quickly!!!!

  5. Jennifer Drew

    You will get loads of unsolicited advice when you are a new mom. Everyone seems to feel it is their duty to offer advice: in the mall; while you’re out for a walk; at Starbucks; in a public washroom; … EVERYWHERE … my only advice to you is use the advice that works for you and ignore the rest. Every family is different and each child is unique. As others have said, trust your instinct. ENJOY your baby. CHERISH every moment!

  6. Ingrid

    My advice …. Definitely follow your gut you know your baby better than anyone else! It’s okay to burst into trears for no reason, you’re not Crazy !
    Don’t beat yourself up about the 5pm pass-off to Dad. You need a break too… ;)

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