Have you ever wanted to do something but let the fear of the unknown stop you? It is liberating to forge through that trepidation and conquer what held us back.
Last week I had a chance to experience something I’ve always wanted to do but always let the what-ifs talk me out: a boudoir shoot. My amazing neighbour Nat is photographer and was looking for a “model” she could feature to advertise her mini Valentine’s Day sessions. Without knowing any of the details and so not to over think it I told her I was in.
It wasn’t long before the reality of the shoot set in: I was going to be half naked in front of a camera. What had I done? I didn’t have a toned body, right curves or flawless skin. I had let unrealistic expectations of body image set in. My saving grace was it was happening the next day so I had little time to dwell and even less time to shop.
The next morning I headed to Nat’s home with a tickle trunk full of outfits from my closet As it was a mini-session I did my own hair and make-up. I made sure to wear ankle socks so I didn’t have ugly sock lines. We decided on my wardrobe and went straight to work.
The only times I had worked with a photographer was on my wedding day and an outdoor family shoot. And with clothes on. Nat knew this was my first time in front of a camera in such a vulnerable way and was a great coach. Her direction of poses felt natural. When I felt out of my element she assured me from her angle, it was perfect. That’s when the magic was created.
After each click of the lens she told me how beautiful I was. How perfect the pose was. How gorgeous the shot was. It felt cheeky at first but the more she snapped the more I started to feel like a rock star. Nat made me feel comfortable and relaxed. I got lost in the moment. I was less concerned about my imperfections and more focused on the high that was swelling inside.
I felt sexy. Intoxicated. Beautiful. I left the shoot not knowing if a picture would turn out and not caring. My self-confidence from the experience alone had grown exponentially from both the way Nat pumped me up and for tackling the fear.
Receiving the photos made me giddy. They are classy and edgy; fun and sexy. They are everything me.
The best part about this shoot is I discovered that confidence is the most beautiful feature of all.
Every woman should feel the way I now do. So go find a boudoir photographer you’re comfortable with and book a session. You will feel beautiful.
Here are some tips for an amazing boudoir:
Select a wardrobe that represents you. You will feel most comfortable in your own style. Sexy doesn’t mean less clothing. Feminine, high heels are a must though; even for just a few shots.
Wear loose clothing to the shoot. You don’t want lines.
There is no perfect body. Repeat. There is no perfect body. A good photographer will help put you at ease and pose you in positions that show off your best features.
Take your favourite music. By having upbeat music playing in the background it will automatically lift your mood and relax you generating great pictures.2